After years of running my mental health into the ground over the holidays, I realized I had to find another way to avoid passing the tradition of Mommy burnout onto my kids.
I’ve been working hard to recalibrate our holidays so that I’m not broken come January and reached out to several local ladies and asked them to share their best tips to avoid holiday burnout both at home and at work.
But first, we can’t avoid it if it takes us by surprise, so
Here Are My Signs of Burnout
I know I’m on the verge of a melt-down when I:
- Start wondering why everyone around me is a jerk and wish they would all go away.
- Go online, and I find everyone and their dogs ANNOYING. Sorry, it’s true. 😅
- Feel paralyzed and overwhelmed by all the things.
- Start yelling at seemingly unimportant things.
- Wake up feeling exhausted.
- Feel like my legs are lead weights, everything even stairs feels hard.
- Start craving more sugar.
- Stop making an effort to get fresh air
I hope this article helps make your holiday a little more jolly and a lot less stressy.
The panel weights in with their best tips to avoid holiday burn-out both at home and at work.
Tatum Blize’s Tips to Avoid Holiday Burn-Out
Lower Your Expectations
Remember what this season is truly about, and forget about trying to make it perfect. Perfect moments are when you are present (a lesson I am learning all the time!) If getting to school on time means driving in your PJs, do it.
Schedule Non-Momming Time
DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT skip on girl time. In fact, if you don’t have anything planned with your best girlfriends, reach out now.
We spend so much time and energy orchestrating the most magical season for our kids and families, we need to do things for ourselves that fill our (non-mom) cups.
Delegate & Move Your Body
Our partners LOVE to help and sometimes need to nudge to do so. Just tell them what, by when, and how they can help. Then go for a walk, jump on the peloton, do a quick yoga class or meditate. Moving your body will always help with holiday overwhelm.
Ashly Kissman’s Tips to Avoid Holiday Burn-Out
I keep Christmas décor minimal. All of my decorations have to fit into one plastic storage bin. If it doesn’t fit, it’s time to edit my collection. Less décor means everything will be easier to clean and maintain during the holidays and easier to put away in January.
Identify something that stresses you out and outsource it. For me personally, it’s cooking or baking! This year I am thinking about hosting a holiday potluck and asking family to bring a dish to share, or I am considering using a local caterer for our holiday feast.
Write down everything you think you have to do this month, and then look for 2 or more things you can eliminate. For example, you might feel pressured to go to every single Christmas attraction or event in the city this year. Don’t!
Pick one or two and give yourself permission to skip the rest. It’s important to have days in your calendar where nothing is scheduled – no parties, no events, no shopping trips. I guarantee you will feel amazing, and your kids will too.
Maria Reynolds Tips to Avoid Holiday Burn-Out
Set Reasonable Expectations & Expect the Unexpected
I’ve always been the one to organize friend and family get-togethers. Now that my toddler is old enough to understand and appreciate the holidays, her experience of Christmas comes first.
Thankfully, most of my friends now also have kids. Unfortunately, we all have young kids, so sometimes our events don’t go as planned – and that is expected. Make sure you set reasonable expectations, especially during the holidays. It will save your friendships and your sanity!
The best holiday moments happen when you’re the most relaxed. For me, it’s when I’m at home watching Christmas movies with the ones I love. Or even just having dinner with my family. We don’t need to go overboard in planning or hosting. Easy, simple events can be the most memorable.
Tania Lang’s Tips for Balancing Work and Family During the Holidays
As an Instagram Strategist and busy mom, I feel the daily pressure to have more work-life balance, especially when the kids are home over the holiday break.
If you are a business owner and use Instagram daily to market your business, here are a few ways to manage your time and enjoy the holidays with some balance.
Pre-plan and repurpose.
Plan your content for the month! Easier said than done, I know! But this is your opportunity to get organized and feel less tied to the app.
Repurpose your best-performing posts from the year. (trust me, no one will notice) or repurpose other content such as a blog post or newsletter and turn it into a few Instagram posts. What about stories? Re-share Instagram stories from your archives.
Automate your DM’s
Turn on your DM auto-replies and away messages.
If you must check your DM’s and comments at specific times. Avoid hourly checks.
Turn it off
Out of sight, out of mind.
Turn off all your social media notifications.
Generally, Instagram engagement can be lower at this time of year, so take a break and start fresh in January; you should have no trouble getting back into the swing of things.
Christine’s Tips to Avoid Holiday Burn-Out
Know Your Signs of Burn-Out
Tuning into my body and energy has helped me realize when my tank is nearing empty, which allows me to make adjustments straight away, not when I’m in a puddle of tears in the kitchen.
Pre-Schedule Your Wellness Activities
My mental health declines drastically when I’m not doing yoga and hiking. As tempting as it is to push those things off when life gets busy, we’ve learned the hard way that prioritizing these items is a game-changer for our family.
Matt and I work hard to make sure that we both have extra-circular activities that fill us up, and we protect these times in our schedules.
This is one has also been a game-changer. We sit down as a family and discuss that the holidays are a busy time and we are a team.
I am the holiday CEO, but that doesn’t mean I have to do it all. I continuously brain dump what needs to be done onto paper, and then we divide and conquer.
Iyla is the team lead on “Christmas Spirt.” 😍
Do you know your tell-tale signs of burnout? Did we miss anything?
Tell us in the comments below if you have a strategy that works for your family?
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