I have a secret. Not a well-kept secret but something I usually keep to myself. I’m a PTA mom, and it’s something I dreamt of becoming long before I had kids.
Seriously, I said that. I think I was 25, which makes it even more ridiculous. The point is I knew without a doubt I’d be on the PTA.
Imagine my surprise years later when my daughter started kindergarten, and I happily took my seat at the PTA meetings. It didn’t take long to realize the general consensus in the “mom world” was that PTA moms are a giant pain in the ass and ones to be avoided. Even close friends whom I respected were buying into the PTA mom stereotype.
I’ve seen the movies. I get it. Overbearing moms who control the fate of everyone’s kids and make other parents feel like shit for not helping out but come on… Isn’t that just drama for the sake of drama? Apparently not.
Why being a PTA mom works for me.
Education is Everything
Volunteering in the school shows my kids that their education is a priority, one that I will invest my time in.
We moved to a new community when pregnant with my third kiddo. As a pregnant stay-at-home mom with a two-year-old, my social calendar consisted of grocery shopping, playgroups and nap times. Basically, I was bored out of my mind and desperate for adult connections. Helping at the school was often my social event of the week.
Influence Your Kids School Environment
After seeing an inspirational bulletin board on Facebook, my friend Sarah and I decided to offer our slightly compulsive crafty brains to help beautify the school and inject some inspirational messages we wanted our kids to be exposed to. We approached the staff, and they were more than happy to take “decorate bulletin board” off their to-do lists.
For another inspirational bulletin board idea click here.
My kids light up when they see me in the halls. Their friends love seeing me in the school. They all say “Hi” I get all the high beam smiles. It’s very likely that soon my kids will be embarrassed to have me around, but that isn’t today, so I’m milking it while I can.
Be a Fly on the Wall
I pick jobs that get me into the classes rooms. This allows me to scope out the teachers and get a good feel for what the kids are experiencing during the day.
Build Confidence in Younger Kids
My younger kids come along when I’m volunteering at the school. They benefit from wandering the halls as toddlers, getting to know some of the staff and understanding the lay of the land. Then when they start school, the transition isn’t as scary.
Get My Voice Heard.
I’ve built relationships with the others at the table by showing up regularly. I get to vote on the issues, say how the money gets spent and when problems arise with my kids, we aren’t starting at square one in our relationship.
Utilize Career Skills
I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for eight years. Volunteering allows me to use my past-life business skills. It’s forced me to get back on my computer for more than looking at photos of my kids. I’ve designed posters, run social media pages, helped with event planning, created spreadsheets, bulletin boards and worked on my collaborative and networking skills.
No More Hiding
It’s time for me to stop worrying about being a PTA mom stereotype and start wearing my PTA shirt proudly!
A giant heartfelt thank you to all the Moms, Dads, Grandmas, Grandpas, Aunties, Guardians and anyone else who devotes their time away from their jobs, families and favourite tv shows. Without your efforts, our kids would miss out on some amazing opportunities.
Have you had a negative or positive experience with your school’s PTA?
Originally posted to Instagram on September 27, 2019.